A video I made today on BPD/EUPD…a taste of how it feels for me. BPD is an invisible emotional disorder, with some biological/neurological/heredity component…but one which is usually borne from difficult childhoods. The repeated wounds of childhood for the abused, neglected or traumatised child never fully heal…so life continues to hurt a great deal in adult life. We live in threat mode. We are the most sensitive people on the planet. We’ll do anything for you to make you feel better, because we are empathisers of the highest calibre. Why do we empathise we well? Because we know emotion, my god don’t we know it. People with BPD live emotionally dysregulated lives. We feel emotions significantly more than non-BPD people/ BPD affects everything- our thoughts, emotions, relationship patterns. We are ruled by our hearts, leading to impulsive pleasure seeking emotional pain killing behaviour, and our heads tell us things about ourselves that are critical and shaming, as that is how we were conditioned to think by the caregivers that made us feel we are unlovable creatures. Our self-esteem is low. We often have co-occurring psychiatric disorders; depression, anxiety, social anxiety, PTSD, eating disorders, body dysmorphia, panic disorder etc and sometimes slip into mini psychotic and dissociative episodes under intense stress. We are likely to turn to risky behaviours sometimes and are prone to self-harm (because as hard as it is to believe, self harm can make us feel better). We go into sudden crisis when we are triggered by particular things…rejection, failure, and criticism to name but a few. Suicide attempts are common, and completed suicide is also common. The two classes of psychiatric patient most likely to actually die from their mental illnesses are severely depressed patients and those with BPD. We make up 20% of inpatients in acute psychiatric care and trips to A&E (the ER for Americans) are not unusual. The extent our emotions overwhelm us make everyday life, holding down a job and raising kids an uphill struggle.
We suffer invisibly.
Non-BPD people just have no idea how much.
I have wanted to make a video on BPD for a while and finally I am doing it. It was therapy for me on a bad day.
Enjoy, and tell me what you think (any feedback welcome) SHARE YOUR SHINE x